Though many of us would never admit it, we’ve all fantasized at some point in our lives about how lovely it would be if we could think things into existence. If we could imagine something we wanted and it would simply appear.
Sometimes, what we want is as simple as a cup of tea.
Other times it’s more complicated, and we wish harder for them. We wish for an easier income so we can feed our children. We wish for a way of getting the illness to go away, so we can be with our loved ones a little bit longer. We wish for a way out of any of life’s vicious cycles – out of depression, out of debt, out of bad relationships, out of mistakes.
Sadly, the world doesn’t work that way. Wishing generally doesn’t make much of a difference. Help, for the most part, comes easiest to those who help themselves.
Some wishes are harder to cope with than others. It’s one of those inescapable truths that, instead of fighting, you just have to learn to make work for you.
The trick to dealing with the things you can’t bear to live without, is knowing to handle reasonably and responsibly the things that matter a little less.
Like that cup of tea.
If your kettle is broken and all the cafes in the area are closed, you’re going to have to live with the fact that you’re not getting any tea right now.
You can choose to get upset, to throw a fit, to refuse to get on with your day until someone brings you tea.
Or you can choose to shrug it off, get on with your life, just wait until tea is more readily available and appreciate it all the more then.
You can’t make much of an impact on your circumstances, but you can change your attitude towards them.
Just like you can’t stop it from raining, but you change the way you see the rain. You can choose to see it as something that’s stopping you from going outside, that’s making it all cold and dreary when you wanted to be out in the sunshine, going for a nice walk.
Or, you can choose to remember that it’s revitalising the earth, that without the rain there would be plants, no flowers, no natural beauty. You can choose to relish the opportunity to sit in the warm and listen to the heavens pour upon the outside world, let the sound of water pounding the ground relax you, safe and secure and toasty indoors. You can choose to spend all the time it’s raining looking forward to the moment when the clouds finally pass and all the world smells fresh and clean again.
Your life can get immediately better if you just believe that it is.
You won’t change anything, objectively. The things that are difficult won’t suddenly become easy. The things that are painful won’t instantly become sweet.
But you can ease your burden by choosing to let go of the things that don’t matter and free up your mental and emotional energy for those that do.
Author Bio – Kirstie Summers is journalist whose day job takes her to all the most interesting places and events in South London. She also freelances for a number of sites and publications, from gaming and literature reviews to creative fiction. She lives in London and spends as much of her free time as possible making the most of being in such a diverse city. She keeps one day a week to herself to swim, relax and keep the stress of the world at bay.