The pace of the modern world has managed to simultaneously make everything far more efficient than any previous generation has been lucky enough to experience and everything far more frustrating. The very speed at which we receive the answers to our prayers, the solutions to our problems, the fulfilment of our desires has engendered a much more aggressive species of impatience in humanity.
We expect our pizzas delivered within thirty minutes, our online shopping to arrive the next day. We expect our refunds returned immediately and all our customer service needs sorted over the phone, without us ever having to leave our sofas. We want a single pill to flush out all our medical issues overnight.
Some people are so impatient they will put themselves through drastic surgical operations to avoid having to take up jogging.
And, really, who can blame us? The way we’ve built the world allows us to be impatient. It is simply so streamlined that we can afford to sit back and let everything come to us.
Unfortunately, neither the human body nor mind is at quite the same evolutionary stage.
We just can’t change fast enough to keep up with our own expectations of the world around us. It’s why technology gets harder and harder to grasp as we age. It’s why, when we want to change something about ourselves, everything feels like it’s taking too long.
If you want to lose weight – in a way that is genuinely beneficial to your health – you have to plan out a regime of dieting and exercise changes that you have to commit to for weeks, months or even forever. No matter how many ‘one weird trick’s you try, ultimately, the only way you’re going to reach your goals is to put the time in.
If you want to change your attitude towards something – maybe you want to immerse yourself about a new interest and learn everything you can about it, maybe you’re afraid you’re a bit of a bigot – you have to be prepared for the long, slow process that it will take. You have to be prepared to challenge your own preconceptions, you have to be willing to spend hours, perhaps days, educating yourself as much as possible.
And then challenging the new views you’ve developed, just to be on the safe side, to be sure you’re thinking critically and actually learning.
Change always takes time and effort.
Without exception, you will always be better off committing to putting in the resources and energy the first time round than wasting your time on quick fix solutions that will take you nowhere. No matter how tempting they might seem.
There is only one thing you will ever need to make any change in your life: the will to do it.
All the self-help and quick fixes in the world won’t do you any good unless you are fully committed to putting the work in, unless you are one hundred per cent willing to do whatever it takes to achieve your goals.
Without the will within you, you have no hope, so you may as well not even try.
But when you are willing to do whatever it takes, it becomes near impossible to fail.
Author Bio – Kirstie Summers is journalist whose day job takes her to all the most interesting places and events in South London. She also freelances for a number of sites and publications, from gaming and literature reviews to creative fiction. She lives in London and spends as much of her free time as possible making the most of being in such a diverse city. She keeps one day a week to herself to swim, relax and keep the stress of the world at bay.