The most important decisions you can ever make will require you to take risks. Often, big risks. Sometimes, the kind of risks that could equally result in losing everything you have or gaining everything you dream of.
Even when all you’re risking with a decision is a minor discomfort, it’s wise to weigh up the pros and cons. It’s worth making sure you know what you could be in for, to be certain the benefits really do outweigh the costs and to double check with yourself that this is really what you want.
But it’s important to construct an argument in your mind that considers all potential outcomes.
It’s all too easy – when you’re worried about where something might take you, when you’re feeling cautious, when you’re scared that something awful might happen instead of something wonderful – to only listen to the voice that tells you bad things are going to happen.
Maybe you’re going to fail miserably.
Maybe you’re going to lose all the time, money, effort you’ve put into this so far.
Maybe you’re going to end up back where you started.
Maybe you’ll end up even further back than that. Maybe it’ll go so badly wrong that you’ll lose everything…
Even though a lot of the things worrying you will be reasonable, fear has a habit of exaggerating to make you listen to it. It likes to blow everything out of proportion to the point that you stop hearing anything else.
You might even end up forgetting all the things that could go wonderfully, beautifully right.
Maybe this will improve your quality of life. Maybe just a little bit. Maybe hugely.
Maybe this will ease the stress you’re feeling right now.
Maybe this will be the first step you need to take to get to live your dream.
The positive things that might happen are all – if you’ve planned things out properly and are prepared to put the work in – about as likely to happen as the bad things.
And if you’re prepared to let the negativity run wild putting terrifying ideas into your head, it only makes sense to counterbalance that with some equally ridiculous happy ones.
Maybe this will be the only hurdle you’ll have to face. Maybe you’ll become an overnight millionaire.
It could happen.
It’s up to you to dismiss the irrational and the illogical and you definitely have the power to do so. If you are well enough equipped to make such a potentially life changing decision, then you should be sensible enough to tell the difference between a real possibility and an unlikely fear.
Whether the majority of your maybes are positive or negative is entirely down to you.
You just have to be prepared to listen to both sides. You to have to be strong enough not to give in to fear. You have to be able to put hope into your expectations and to trust that your own judgement will be able to take care of the rest.
Author Bio – Kirstie Summers is journalist whose day job takes her to all the most interesting places and events in South London. She also freelances for a number of sites and publications, from gaming and literature reviews to creative fiction. She lives in London and spends as much of her free time as possible making the most of being in such a diverse city. She keeps one day a week to herself to swim, relax and keep the stress of the world at bay.