Everyone has an image in their mind of the person they want to be. Some people are lucky enough that the person they see in the mirror looks a lot like the person they hold in their mind. Others, not so much.
It’s not a bad thing if you don’t think you’re quite who you’re destined to be, yet. Life is a journey and if you had no growing or learning left to do, then you’d spend the rest of it bored, to say the least.
The only real tragedy is if you know that you still have some improving to do and choose to sulk instead of working for it.
Making big changes to your life is never going to be easy. Some small changes aren’t even that easy, a lot of the time. But it’s simple enough to get into the mindset that is crucial to beginning that process.
Whether you want to be a healthier person or a more compassionate person or a more intelligent person, or whatever else it is you’re trying to be, the only way to make it stick is to integrate it as fully as you can into your general lifestyle.
If you want to be a healthy person, you can’t just force yourself to go for one sweaty, uncomfortable run every so often and pretend that that’s enough. You need to be the kind of person who makes time in their morning routine for a little bit of yoga, who maybe cycles to work, the kind of person who goes hiking or rock climbing or dancing as a social activity. You need to be the kind of person who makes an effort to find fresh, wholesome foods as often as possible and – most importantly of all – you need to enjoy it.
Even if, in the beginning, you don’t enjoy dragging yourself out of bed half an hour earlier to stretch, or giving up junk food in favour of delicious vegetables, you can least appreciate that you’re becoming the kind of person you will love being. Enjoy that. As much as you can.
If you really hate it that much, you’re allowed to change your mind and go back to the way things were first time round. You’re allowed to realise that you like things better before.
But if you’re still committed to your goal, enjoy knowing that you are on your way to being your dream self.
The same thing goes for anything you want to do. Think about all the little changes that you can make in your life to incorporate the qualities you want to be recognised for. Start slow, practice often and eventually you’ll get there.
Become the kind of person who soaks in literature, become the kind of person who goes out of the way to make others feel loved, whatever it is, become the kind of person who you can feel proud to be.
Author Bio – Kirstie Summers is journalist whose day job takes her to all the most interesting places and events in South London. She also freelances for a number of sites and publications, from gaming and literature reviews to creative fiction. She lives in London and spends as much of her free time as possible making the most of being in such a diverse city. She keeps one day a week to herself to swim, relax and keep the stress of the world at bay.