Admitting You’ve Been FooledFor a sin that is so roundly condemned in both spirituality and society, pride is a very common trait in human beings.

Most people are proud about something. And often they have every right to be. People accomplish amazing things and pride the natural result of recognising your own achievements.

But it can manifest in many different ways. Some are less appealing than others, both to the people experiencing it and those around them.

A form of pride that is irritating simply because of its commonness is people’s apparent inability to accept when they have been fooled.

For some reason, a lot of people are adamant that they can gauge the truthfulness of anything and everything they read or hear. This is, almost always, not true. There is not a single person alive who is omniscient. While there are probably a lot people out there who have a good ability to think critically when faced with something claimed to be a fact – and you may be well one of them – that doesn’t make anyone impervious to trickery.

People get fooled all the time. People are naturally inclined to believe things that they are told by someone they like or respect or want to get along with. No matter how smart you are, or how carefully you consider a statement from every angle, you still have the capacity to be fooled.

It’s not a failing, it’s not a flaw.

It’s a natural part of being a person. Part of the human condition is that you are always learning. There will always be something that you don’t know. You could spend your whole life reading and studying and still not scratch the surface of the endless information this universe contains.

Accept that.

And accept that other people are just as unlikely to know everything as you do.

Accept that people are stupid sometimes, that they share information they don’t know anything about, that they don’t bother to verify things before they tell everyone else it’s definitely true.

This might be some piece of gossip about someone you know. It might be a ‘revolutionary’ new cure for a disease that is making the rounds on Facebook but not a single medical journal. It might be a scandal about a celebrity or a politician, that their career may never recover from even if it’s not true. It might be some harmless prank and too many people latch onto and it gets out of hand. It might be some satire website posting jokes that are a touch too close to home and end up getting reported as real news. It might be a genuine con, from someone you didn’t expect to be malicious.

Sometimes, people say something they can’t really know, but with so much confidence that you can’t help but believe it.

Sometimes, these things that feel likely to have happened, they feel like they could be – maybe even should be – true.

But depending on that instinct to tell you whether or not something is true, as easy as it is, is not a good decision. Clinging to that feeling in the face of evidence you’ve been conned is worse. You only end up looking like more of a fool. Your pride becomes much more embarrassing than your mistake.

Accept that you won’t be right in every situation. Accept that you’re human.

Come to terms with that now and you’re better prepared already for the future.

Kirstie Summers,

Daily Zen.

Author Bio – Kirstie Summers is journalist whose day job takes her to all the most interesting places and events in South London. She also freelances for a number of sites and publications, from gaming and literature reviews to creative fiction. She lives in London and spends as much of her free time as possible making the most of being in such a diverse city. She keeps one day a week to herself to swim, relax and keep the stress of the world at bay.