How to Focus on You – Relax
Even when life is going really well for you – sometimes, especially then – things can get overwhelming.
People who just want to show they care about how you’re getting on can end up getting on your nerves. A busy social life can leave you exhausted enough to ache for the peaceful existence of a hermit monk. An engaging and challenging career, faced with the wrong mind-set, can feel demanding and draining.
It’s easy to feel like you’ve made a lot of bad choices, like you’ve got carried away with decisions you didn’t want to make. As if, you don’t want your friends or your job or your hobbies any more, no matter how much you’ve enjoyed them up until now.
Sometimes, it is the things that make life worth living that can feel like they’re drowning you.
But, when meditating isn’t quite your thing and you don’t have the funds for a spa day, relaxing and readjusting doesn’t have to be that difficult.
TAKE A DAY OUT JUST TO BE ALONE
Or an evening, or an afternoon, if you can’t quite manage a whole day. Turn your phone off. Leave your social media alone for a little while. Be peaceful, be relaxed. That doesn’t mean you have to commit to getting great at yoga and meditation. Just lay back. Watch a film, read a book, write a poem. Take a long bubble bath. Do something you enjoy for no other reason than the pure pleasure of it. Something that isn’t stressful. And do it by yourself. Take some time where absolutely nothing and no one intrudes on your you time.
DO IT REGULARLY
Without going so far as to actually become a hermit, make sure that you set some time aside as often as you can to just relax. To be you. To take a break from the busyness and bustle of your life to remind yourself why you do that. Let your own gut reactions to life dictate how often this is. You might have the kind of high intensity life style that begs you to step out for an hour a day. You might be fairly chilled out most of your time anyway and only really need some alone time once a month. Whenever you feel the need, do it.
DO THINGS THAT YOU WANT TO DO
Not just in your alone time. It might seem obvious, but it’s easy to get carried away with what other people want. Whether that means your boss who wants you to do a few extra hours here and there when you want to go home or your friend who wants to go see the less appealing movie. Think about what you want and make sure that you get to do them. Make time for those things that you want to happen in your life. It might mean booking time off for a holiday, it might mean going out somewhere new for dinner, just because you feel like treating yourself.
That doesn’t mean never compromise – do some over time every now and again, but make sure you’re not getting exploited. Go see that mediocre film, but you pick where to eat after.
And you can go see what you wanted to watch in your next dose of you time.
Author Bio – Kirstie Summers is journalist whose day job takes her to all the most interesting places and events in South London. She also freelances for a number of sites and publications, from gaming and literature reviews to creative fiction. She lives in London and spends as much of her free time as possible making the most of being in such a diverse city. She keeps one day a week to herself to swim, relax and keep the stress of the world at bay.