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Look up “New Years Cleanse or Detox” online and you’ll find hundreds of options ranging from juices, supplements, to colonics. As much as these are a pain in the butt (pun definitely intended) they can also be very expensive. The detox I’m about to share is totally free and will drastically change your life forever. Intrigued? You should be.

While many of us have fitness-related New Years Resolutions for 2016, we fail to see the connection that our mental and spiritual health has to our physical state. We become stressed so we eat comfort foods. We feel uncomfortable so we avoid the gym. We don’t believe we can accomplish our goals, so we quit before we ever begin. Sound familiar? Yeah, me neither.

I’m proposing we try an “Emotional Detox” to start the New Year off right. Let’s cleanse ourselves of some disempowering behaviours that are wreaking havoc on our lives, and free up some space for the happily ever after we totally deserve.

As with all new endeavours, I recommend you pick one of these areas to begin with. Once you’ve mastered that area, you can add another disempowering habit to the Emotional Detox.

NEGATIVE SELF-TALK

Have you ever considered that you are the most influential person you’ll speak to all day? With that being said, we must begin taking responsibility for our inner chatter. Many of the disempowering beliefs we carry are subconscious, and we’ve allowed our thoughts to beat us up rather than build us up. We often turn to food for comfort when we are feeling alone and vulnerable, but when we have cultivated a healthy and loving relationship with ourselves, we can often comfort ourselves rather than turning to external sources. Thoughts only have as much power as you invest in them, so choose instead to dismiss any disempowering thoughts, and focus your attention on encouraging thoughts. Self love is a full time job, so don’t expect results overnight, just start this journey off by watching your thoughts and increasing your awareness of what your inner dialogue is looking like. From there you can begin choosing the thoughts you wish to believe.

RESENTMENT

If you want to create massive shifts in your life, forgiveness will be vitally important to the process. We release resentment by acknowledging that it does not serve our higher good. Buddha says that “holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” Forgiveness is the greatest gift we can give ourselves, as it is less about letting the other person “off the hook” and more about letting ourselves off the hook from the pain and energy that was invested in that situation. Create a list of people you need to forgive (note that I said need and not “want”) and be sure to add yourself to this list. We often hold ourselves hostage for things we’ve done in the past. Remember that we are all doing the very best we can in this life, with the knowledge, experience and abilities that we possess. Give yourself a pass for anything in the past, because you can’t go back and change it, so learn the lessons you needed to learn and move on. You can only be in one place at a time: the past, present or future. You can’t enjoy the present moment and feel resentment for the past simultaneously. Choose this moment. Right now. It’s a gift and a blessing, that’s why they call it the present.

FEAR

The thing about fear is: it isn’t real. Fear and Faith are but figments of our imagination. Fear is the image in our minds of how terrible something could be, and faith is the image of how wonderful something could be. All we need to do is be aware of our thoughts (as mentioned in the Negative Self Talk) and choose to have faith in ourselves and our lives. Think about how many dreams have been crushed before we even started them due to the fear of failure. In my opinion nothing is scarier than looking back at my life with regrets, so we need to learn to live courageously. We can’t live fearlessly, because fears will always pop up, but we can be courageous and choose to do the thing anyways, despite the fear we are experiencing. Exposing your fears will often make them less overwhelming, so give yourself permission to inspect them. What’s your worst case scenario? If that happened, then what? And after that what would happen? Break it down and continue to ask yourself what would happen next, and I promise eventually you will realize that you will survive and it’s not really that scary. Failure is a sign that you are trying something new, and even a failed attempt requires celebration and congratulations, because you’re getting out of your comfort zone and living your life courageously.

Negative self-talk, resentment and fear are major barriers to us living the life of our dreams. Detoxify your life of these bad habits, and you’ll be making space for positive, more empowering habits, such as self-love, acceptance, gratitude and courage. 

2016 is a chance to start over again, but remember that each and every moment is an opportunity to choose again, and choose better. Be patient with yourself and allow yourself to break your old habits. Beyoncé wasn’t built in a day, so give yourself a break if you fall back into old habits. The fact that you are aware of these habits already prove that a massive shift is on it’s way in your life. Believe this change is possible, and you’re half way there already. 

There’s a reason you’ve come here to read this blog, to learn these tools to create this change, the time is just right and this is your time to shine.

L.K. Elliott,

Daily Zen.

Author Bio – L.K. Elliott is the author of the innovative self-help book, Confessions of an Ex Hot Mess, where she shares her message of personal growth and triumph over depression. With humor and relentless optimism, she encourages readers to create their own happily ever after.  For more inspiration, check out her blog at www.lkelliott.com, Instagram r@lk.elliott, Twitte @lkelliott_YouTube, and Facebook.

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