How to Choose Your GoalsEveryone has that point at which they just have to stop. When they have to step back from the hassle and reconsider the path they’ve laid out for themselves. When they need to ask, Am I still doing the right thing? Is what I’m doing still making me happy?

A lot of the time, people will keep going without pausing. They will assume that they’re still on the right track, heading in the direction they want, without stopping to evaluate their frustrations. They truly believe that their problems will disappear once they’ve gone on long enough.

But sometimes that’s a mistake. Sometimes, you’re much better off making sure you’re still aiming for something that matters to you.

If you’re working towards a goal – whether your path is smooth or a struggle – sometimes you need to take a moment to make sure that it is still what you want. Especially if it’s been in your mind for a long time, if there’s a chance you’ve started to idealise your success.

If you find yourself often unsatisfied, if you find that the milestones you cross feel hollow, maybe you need to be working towards an achievement you care about more.

In this kind of situation, it’s not difficult to work out if your goal will be fulfilling if you consider a few key things.


This can be an immediate or a long term benefit. You might be thinking of the bonus you’ll get or the savings you’ll make over the course of a year or more. Or you might be thinking about the good feeling you get from doing something that you consider to be a valuable and worthwhile use of your time. If you come out of each day of effort feeling like it was a good use of time, keep at it. If you don’t, maybe you need to rethink what you’re doing with your days.


Whether you’re doing something that directly helps people or your loved ones are simply happier because they see you feeling more fulfilled, if other people benefit from whatever you’re doing, it’s likely a good use of your energy. There is something immensely satisfying in knowing that you are doing good for a community or even just one person. If the work you do makes other people smile, it’s worth sticking with.


The worst day you’ll ever have doing something you love and are passionate about is still going to feel infinitely better than the best day you’ll have doing something redundant. If you can take a bad day and choose to continue, choose to learn from the negative experience, choose to better your future efforts, it’s something that you have the strength to pursue. If you have a good day and still go home feeling like you’ve done nothing but sold your time, you can likely find a better use for that time.


Ultimately, you want something that you feel driven to do. If you care so much about reaching a goal that you are willing to face anything that might get in your way, never let go of that passion. If you love something that much, it’s worth putting up with the misfortune to get to it. If you can keep the end rewards in mind when you face the worst days, and use them as motivation to push you through the difficulties, it’ll feel so very worth it in the end.

Kirstie Summers,

Daily Zen.