Stress happens, and that is inevitable. Unless you happen to be a billionaire with unlimited disposable income and the secret to eternal life, you will definitely face something in your life that stresses you out. At least once. Whether you have to cope with the death of a loved one, an awful job, or just a collection of little annoyances that gather as you slog through each day, something is going to occur that grinds at your temper.

It’s not worth getting worked up when bad things happen. The universe isn’t singling you out for suffering, after all. It’s a normal part of human existence.

But some things do push you over the edge. Then, it’s difficult to hold things together. You’ll get upset, you’ll get angry. You’ll forget what’s important.

So. Remember.


Whatever is bothering you, must have happened for a reason. If you’ve got a frustrating job, remember why you took that job in the first place. Maybe it pays the kind of money that means you can give your family a decent home. Maybe it’s flexible, so you’ve got plenty of time for your hobby and your friends. Maybe it’s a stepping stone to something much bigger, the annoying job you only have to do until you have the experience or qualifications for the one you really want. Keep those things in mind. Whatever your problem is, most of the time there’s a good reason. If you’ve suffered a serious loss or you hate consistently unreliable public transport, it’s more difficult to find a bright side. But if you can, do, and save yourself the stress.


People are resilient. Whether you’re grieving or perpetually annoyed, you will get over it. Stick it out. Try and stay positive and, eventually, the pain will fade away. Take a moment to analyse your problems – will they bother you in ten years? Five years? One year? One month? It’s only going to be a matter of time before life has given you a whole new set of priorities and this nuisance is a distant memory. If you even remember it. So, for now, hang in there


When things get overwhelming, a lot of people lash out without thinking. When it’s hard to cope with your own problems, you don’t have time for anyone else’s. You might not have time for anyone else at all, unless they’ve got something that can help to ease your suffering a bit. It’s difficult. But taking out your problems on the people you love doesn’t help anyone. Isolating the people who want to help you makes things worse for you. It makes them stop wanting to help you. It leaves you alone when you most need someone there to look after you. Remember that the most important and valuable things you have are the people who care about you. Even when they can’t do anything to help, they’re still there for you, as long as you’re upset, when it’s all over, and when something else comes along to annoy you later on.


People can generally live for a century or more these days. But, in the grand scheme of things, that’s not a lot of time. And you’ll spend most of it working. Most of it you won’t remember after some time has passed. And there’s a fair chance that your last decade or so will be spent, well, quietly. Remember that, no matter how little you smoke or how healthily you eat, life is short. Do you really have time to be worrying about little things?

Kirstie Summers,

Daily Zen.